Set aside 8 small whole berries for garnish. Coarsely chop remaining berries (about 1/4 inch pieces). Blend 1/3 cup chopped strawberries, jam, liqueur and 1/4 cup water in blender or mini processor until smooth.
Whip cream with electric mixer to soft peaks. Blend Neufchatel, sugar and vanilla in large bowl with mixer. Beat in about one quarter of cream on low speed just until blended. Gradually fold in remaining cream until blended.
Into eight glasses (4-inch-wide,) place a few lady-fingers, breaking up lady-fingers to fit. Spoon some jam mixture over lady-fingers; top with some diced strawberries and some cream mixture. Repeat one more time in glass. Garnish each with a whole berry.
Arrange lady-fingers in single layer in bottom of 8-inch glass baking dish. Spoon and spread half of jam mixture evenly over lady-fingers. Top with diced strawberries spreading level, then with half of cream mixture, spreading level.
Repeat with remaining ingredients. Halve reserved berries and arrange on top. Refrigerate for at least 4 hours or overnight. Cut in squares to serve.